Wedding Tips: Exercise Less
Wedding Tips: Exercise Less

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Today I want to talk about a topic that you may not realize is bothering you. Photo retouching. Most of you either have no idea what this is, or think it’s something that does not affect you. The reality is, it may be something you think about everyday and don’t realize. Photo retouching is something that is done to images to alter the subject. Typically, when done to women, it’s used to make them appear more attractive/skinny/sexy. This is all well and good, but the problem is that you start comparing yourself to people who are not “real”. I mean sure, there is a real live Faith Hill, but the magazine cover is not really what she looks like.

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EVERY magazine cover is re-touched. Sometimes it’s minor, and barely noticeable. Sometimes we just wanna “tweak” people’s skin tones a bit. :)

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Other times it’s so drastic people start to ask questions. This recent cover of W magazine led people to ask whether they had just put 47 year old Demi Moore’s head on a 20-something year old models’ body.

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A recent Ralph Lauren add caused so much controversy that they had to issue a public apology. I mean seriously, look at this woman. The left is a shot of her on the runway. The right is a shot of her apparently sawed in half to fit in the jeans. :)

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My point is not that re-touching is the evil of all evils. I tweak my images, I adjust color and light. I get it. Digital photography has made this super super easy. My point is that as a woman/bride you should not compare yourselves to the images you see on the covers when you are checking out at the grocery store. Again, these are not “real” people. Dove even did a commercial about this.

You will always be able to find someone skinnier than you.

Someone will always have better abs.

Cosmopolitan will always make you feel less than perfect. (That is how they sell magazines.)

One of the reasons many celebrities can’t seem to stay married is because being attractive has almost NOTHING to do with staying married. Brides, you have been chosen. Your fiance’ is committing to spend the rest of his life with you. Not with your stomach, your breasts, or your legs. He is choosing you.

Your heart.

Your laugh.

Your mind.

Your kindness.

These are the things that have attracted him to you. I’m sure he loves to look at you and you love to look at him.  But the reality is, it works the same for you. I know you love his dimples, his hair, his tan. But what attracts you to him is who he is.

I love Danielle more today than I ever did. Not because she weighs less, not because she went and got some lipo, and not because she got rid of that last bit of cottage cheese. The reason I love her more is because I KNOW her more. I understand her more, and she understands me. We have spent time learning each other. These are the things that a marriage is built on. These are the things that keep couples together.

I’ll say it again. Someone has chosen you. The next time you are checking out and see a Cosmo and think “I should do more crunches”, just remember “I have been chosen.” Then buy a candy bar and celebrate. :)

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Wedding Photography Tyler, TX | Jessica & Charlie
Wedding Photography Tyler, TX | Jessica & Charlie

Jessica and Charlie were married on a cold rainy day. (That is one of the great things about a venue like the Villa Di Felicita, they have both outdoor AND indoor spots for your ceremony.)

The weather did not bother Jess one bit because pretty much the whole day long I would catch her squealing with delight as she saw her day unfolding.

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Both Jessica & Charlie just passed their bar exam a few weeks ago. I overheard Jessica telling someone that the only way they made it through those study sessions was with the help of these little 5 hour energy drinks. She had one for him in the groom’s room so I thought it would be fun to work it into their ring shot.

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A bit of shoe bling.
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wedding photography tyler tx

Cindy’s Creative Cakes out of Kilgore made Charlie’s cake both yummy and good looking.

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Overheard 5 minutes before their First Look: “Someone make sure Charlie brushes his teeth” – Jessica

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wedding photography tyler tx

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Jerry’s Flowers did all the arrangements for the day and Nathan from A Thousand Word Productions was there filming.

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This little guy did not want ANYONE to see him on his way down the aisle.

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wedding photography tyler tx

wedding photography tyler tx

Jessica is friends with two of my past brides, Juliana and her husband Jordan were there so they get a bit of blog love.

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All you need to know about Charlie is with all the great tasting grown up food they had, he still wanted a plate full of chicken nuggets from the kid’s buffet.

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wedding photography tyler tx

Every wedding should end with fireworks.

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Also if you love you some Jessica & Charlie you can view their Engagement Photography here and her Bridal Photography here.

 

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CMB Music Productions adds a DJ.
CMB Music Productions adds a DJ.

So about a week ago my buddy Casey Brown his wife Andrea had their first kid. You may recognize Casey’s name, he is the owner of both CMB DJs and Tyler Uplights. Two vendors that HAVE to be at your wedding! Anyway, since Danielle and I are done with our baby birthing days, I thought it would be fun to head over to their place and take a few photos of little Brooks.

But, before we go too far let me make one little announcement:
I am not a newborn or children’s photographer. I have no idea what to do with little people, how to pose them, or where to put them. I do not enjoy the looming possibility of getting pee-ed on during a photo shoot. If you are looking for photos of your little person you should contact my friend Tammy Williams of Clarity Photography. She gave me all the tips and told me what to do. All this little session did was make me more thankful for my grown up people that I get to work with every week. :)

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photography palestine tx

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photography palestine tx

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I wonder what song he was listening too. :)

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photography palestine tx

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Engagement Photography Palestine, TX | Brynne & Caleb
Engagement Photography Palestine, TX | Brynne & Caleb

Brynne & Caleb braved the sub zero weather in Palestine to shoot their engagement session. (OK, maybe it was just like 40 degrees, but still. it was cold.) Even though the elements were harsh and frigid their love kept them warm. :) :) :) :)

On to the images.

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engagement photography palestine tx

engagement photography palestine tx

engagement photography palestine tx
engagement photography palestine tx

This is Cooper. Caleb calls him Dumb Dumb. (I like Caleb.)

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By the way… the next time you see these two it will be their wedding at Elmwood Gardens in June where it will be like 140 degrees. :)

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How to stay married 7.5 years
How to stay married 7.5 years

I know that none of you really asked me for marriage advice, but guess what, you are about to get some! Right now, as a bride, the last thing in the world you may be thinking about is how to keep your marriage together. I’m sure it may seem like it’s all Disney Princess fairy tales and mushy gushy moments. The reality is at some point, one of you will wake up and look at the other person next to you and think, “I can’t believe I married this person.” (In my case it was Danielle looking at me.) Anyway staying married has little to do with how you physically look, how much money you make, or how fancy your wedding was.

Staying married is about learning to live with someone who gets on your nerves.

Staying married is about changing yourself and not the other person.

Staying married is about Amy Adams, Ben Stiller, and a Digiorno’s pizza.
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You may think I’m kidding, but I’m not. One of the best choices Danielle and I made was to have a date night every other week. Now, every other week may seem like forever to some crazy young kids like yourselves. Going on a date every other night and staying up till 3:00AM talking about life together may be “normal” now, but at some point that will go away. Couples don’t grow distant overnight. It happens slowly.

One of the things we have done since we were married was have a date night. We look forward to it, plan our week around it, and ignore all incoming phone calls while we are on it. The past 3 years have been extra easy because of our friends the Sokolowski’s. We have been “trading” date nights with them. We watch their kids, they watch ours. (We were tied for kids when we started, and now we kinda feel bad when we drop off 4 kids and they only drop off 2.) Here are the 10 of us standing next to a Dark Knight punching bag.

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Anyway, last night we dropped the kids off, came home and watched Night at the Museum 2 and had an exquisitely delicious Digiorno pizza. That would be a 6 dollar date for all of you keeping score at home. Sure the movie was cheesy, so was the pizza. (And that joke.) The point is we spent time together, we talked, we laughed and we fell in love a little bit more. I’m not an expert on marriage or relationships, but I do know that Amy & Ben helped my wife and I stay together.

Make time for each other. Hang out. Keep falling in love.

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